Having a baby is one of the most joyous and challenging times of your life. It’s normal for intimacy with your partner to take some time to adjust. There are about a million reasons for this difficulty, but here are a few:
– Exhaustion
– “Baby blues” or post-partum depression
– Feeling isolated or alone
– “Roller coaster” emotions, rapidly fluctuating emotions
– Feeling unattractive and undesirable
– Decreased or lack of sexual desire
– Difficulty becoming aroused
A few helpful hints for surviving the next couple months:
- Talk! Adjusting to the role of becoming a mother is a process! Tell your partner about how you’re feeling and ask for his help and understanding.
- Find support. Talk to other new moms you trust. It is so helpful to know that you aren’t alone!
- Get information. Ask your doctor about any physical difficulties with intimacy, the impact of breastfeeding on intimacy, etc.
- Ask for help. Consider investing in counseling, if needed. If feelings of sadness or depression worsen and begin affecting your daily life, you may need a little extra help. Counseling can also benefit post-baby difficulties in your relationship. It can help ease the transition, restore sexual intimacy, and aid in understanding and communication.
Let me know if you’d like help finding resources!
yeah, he’s cute–and such a blessing, but life sure is more complicated!
lauren dack 