Five sure fire ways to start a fight with someone you love today:

1. “You always __________________!”(forget to…., mess that up, try to upset me, etc)
2. “You never ____________________!” (listen, do what I want, tell me I’m beautiful…)
3. “You are such a ________________!” (insert mean name/label here)
4. “You make me _______________!” (crazy, insane, angry…)
5. “You asked for it!” (same principle as #4, anything that blames your partner for your behavior)

Five tips that will decrease the probability of a fight:

1. “I feel ____________ (insert emotion, ex. “hurt”) when you _____________.”(insert specific behavior. Ex. “when you forgot to call me when you said you would”) This works because you are talking about your feelings over a specific behavior. You’re not blaming or making untrue all or nothing statements. When you say, “You always forget to call me!” instead of making your point and feelings heard, your partner is immediately put on the defensive.
2. “Thank you!”
3. “Please”
4. “I love you!”
5. “May I give you a back massage?”

Good luck!